How to Set Up a Healthcare Proxy for Your Parent or Loved One 

Making decisions for an aging parent or loved one is never easy, especially when it comes to their healthcare. One of the most important steps you can take to ensure their wishes are respected is setting up a healthcare proxy. This legal document ensures that someone they trust can make medical decisions for them if they are unable to do so themselves.

If you’re wondering how to put a healthcare proxy in place, don’t worry it’s simpler than it sounds. Let’s walk through exactly what a healthcare proxy is, why it’s crucial for nursing home residents, and how to set it up for your loved one.

What Is a Healthcare Proxy?

A healthcare proxy is a legal document that allows your parent or loved one to appoint someone they trust (called a "healthcare agent") to make medical decisions on their behalf if they ever become unable to do so. This could be due to a sudden illness, an accident, or cognitive decline. The healthcare agent acts as their voice, making sure their medical care aligns with their personal wishes.

In states like Massachusetts, healthcare proxies are legally recognized. This document is especially important because Massachusetts does not officially recognize Living Wills. So, if your loved one hasn’t put a healthcare proxy in place, their healthcare decisions might be left up to doctors or family members who may not agree on what’s best.

Why Is a Healthcare Proxy So Important for Nursing Home Residents?

When someone moves into a nursing home, it often means they’re dealing with ongoing health issues that could become more complex over time. For residents with conditions like dementia or other cognitive impairments, there may come a time when they can no longer communicate their preferences about treatment, surgeries, or end-of-life care.

Without a healthcare proxy, important decisions about your loved one's care could fall to medical professionals or cause disagreements among family members. Having a healthcare proxy means that your loved one’s healthcare choices will be made by someone they trust, who understands their values and wishes. This is a huge relief for both the resident and their family, ensuring peace of mind in difficult times.

Step-by-Step: How to Set Up a Healthcare Proxy

Now that you understand why a healthcare proxy is essential, let’s break down how to actually put one in place for your parent or loved one.

• Step 1: Have a Conversation Start by talking to your parent or loved one. Explain what a healthcare proxy is and why it’s important. Reassure them that it’s not about giving up control over their healthcare—it’s about maintaining control. This document ensures their preferences are followed when they can’t express them themselves. Make sure to discuss who they trust the most to make these decisions. It could be you, another family member, or a close friend. The person they choose should be comfortable making potentially tough healthcare decisions.

• Step 2: Fill Out the Healthcare Proxy Form In Massachusetts, creating a healthcare proxy is straightforward. You don’t need a lawyer to complete the form, though two witnesses must sign it to make it legally valid. The form is available online, and you can even ask a healthcare provider or nursing home staff to help you get one. You can download the official Massachusetts healthcare proxy form HERE

• Step 3: Have the Right People Sign the Document Once the form is filled out, your loved one needs to sign it in front of two adult witnesses. These witnesses can’t be the person being named as the healthcare agent, but they can be other family members or friends.

• Step 4: Share the Form with Key People Make sure copies of the completed and signed healthcare proxy form are shared with everyone involved in your loved one’s care. This includes their healthcare provider, the appointed healthcare agent, and even close family members. It’s also smart to keep a copy at the nursing home so that the staff has it on hand if needed.

When Does the Healthcare Proxy Take Effect?

The healthcare proxy only takes effect if your loved one is determined to be unable to make or communicate their own medical decisions. A doctor will assess your loved one’s condition and document their incapacity in their medical records. Until that happens, your loved one continues to make their own healthcare decisions.

Final Thoughts: Why You Should Do This Now

A healthcare proxy is more than just a legal requirement—it’s a vital tool to ensure your healthcare preferences are respected, especially during vulnerable moments. Whether planning for long-term care or preparing for unexpected medical situations, appointing a trusted individual as your healthcare agent provides peace of mind for you and your family.

At View All Options, we encourage you to be proactive in healthcare planning for your loved ones. By setting up a healthcare proxy, you can help ensure their care reflects their values, giving them the dignity and respect they deserve.